tw: rape & sexual assault
The pictures above are from Project Unbreakable.
Project Unbreakable was created in October of 2011 by an amazing woman named Grace Brown. In her own words, Grace “works with survivors of sexual assault, photographing them holding a poster with a quote from their attacker. Grace has photographed over a hundred people, and received over eight hundred submissions.” She has a really wonderful, short video about why she does the work that she does. I encourage you all to watch.
I was so incredibly moved by this project. The first time I stumbled upon it, I started crying. I empathized with these women and men so viscerally; if not through the incident itself, through the sentiments behind it. So I selected a handful of really powerful photos that deeply resonated with me, and that I hope will resonate with others, too.
After some thought, I’ve decided that I want to become a part of this movement and help to shed light on the issue of sexual violence. Particularly, highlighting the fact that most rapes are committed by someone who is at least an acquaintance of the survivor, and I feel that these photos and perpetrator quotes communicate that message very effectively. So, with that said, here is my Project Unbreakable submission:
I’m not in a place yet where I feel comfortable showing my face, and I have to keep reminding myself that there is no shame in that. When I’m ready, I’m ready. And this still feels like a big step for me. I really appreciate Grace and Project Unbreakable for inspiring me to take this risk.
This is beautiful and heartbreaking.
But some people not only seem to never think at all, they actively resent the idea that they should have to think about the effect their words have on others.
Sensitivity is not a sign of weakness – it is how we all get through the day. The trouble is that not everybody is deemed worthy of it. People feel comfortable saying things about Muslims or black people, as a group, that they would never say about white people or Christians, as a group. Similarly they feel comfortable saying things about Muslim and non-white writers they would never say about other writers.
My favorite paragraph
Second, the right to offend is a two-way street. It means nothing if it is not accompanied by the right to be offended. Those who believe racism is fair game should at the very least understand that calling them on their racism is no less so. You don’t have to accept the accusation but if you want to be taken seriously then you have to take the accusation seriously and engage with it. To hide behind your right to free speech is little short of pathetic.
i’ve had this fantasy SO MANY TIMES
A good example of a rape joke that’s funny, in my opinion. Because the victim isn’t the butt of the joke, the ridiculous idea that our society makes it dangerous just to have a vagina is the butt of the joke.
emphasis mine because it’s WHAT I’VE BEEN SAYING ARUGHESIF
but fucking Wanda Sykes. What an awesome lady.
I still say we need a better way to describe this than a “rape joke” as if it’s the equivalent of the crap spewed by Tosh and his merry band of fools and supporters. Rape culture joke, maybe? I don’t know. I’m just kind of tired of saying “rape jokes aren’t okay unless they’re these rape jokes” and trying to explain, because it’s just too confusing to the ignorant.
(1) Wanda Sykes for President. (2) I had a hard time articulating it before now, but yeah, amaditalks hits it perfectly: Sykes told a rape culture joke. A clever one, at that. Because as emilie-rainbow pointed out, the butt of the joke was not rape victims, but society’s tendency to reduce women’s identities to being walking hypersexualized orifices.
I’d argue this very point of distinction would be vital in dealing with anyone rationalizing Tosh.
THANK YOU FOR THIS
hahahaha i love her she’s amazing.
(Heterosexual) male privilege is talking about how bad it is to have a gay man incessantly hit on you when you aren’t interested, having it accepted as a common opinion, and still not understand how a woman can feel the same way when you do the same thing.
Hey, you know what’s a REAL distraction?
- spending hours in the hospital emergency room because your boyfriend beat you up
- wondering when your partner is coming out of jail from being arrested for hitting you the night before
- not being able to concentrate on school work because your classmate raped you
- getting kicked out of school because you were unable to deal with the trauma of being raped
- losing your job or housing because of domestic violence
- not being able to find counseling because you were depending on your abusive partner economically
- wondering EVERY DAY “how the hell am I going to get out of this situation?”
- phone calls from your student loan provider asking for payments you cant afford because you dropped out of school after being raped and can’t get a job due to a shitty economy
- being triggered
- worrying that you’ll never recover from the trauma you’ve endured.
She defended the veto by saying sexual assault victims are “only a small portion” of South Carolinians who need help
The top 1% of income earners seem to be important enough to coddle in terms of policy, but when it comes to RAPE VICTIMS it’s a distraction?
Here’s a big FUCK YOU to Nikki Haley. Abuse affects EVERYONE. WE ALL MATTER.